Then check out this video. This is one of the few that I've seen that actually makes sense.

How to make yourself into boyfriend material

1. Does "Pr0n" perpetuates unrealistic expectations about sex? First, raise your hand if you've never had sex. (Note: This is not a big deal; there's no rush to have sex if you haven't). If you haven't, let me be the first to tell you it isn't about bending your 33AA cup partner backwards then having her scream and moan the whole time about how good you are. And if she does, you'll find that you get sick of the constant patronization.

But for those of us who have had sex, we already know all of this, and no amount of porn we watch will change what we know to be true.

2. Is it cheating to watch "Pr0n?" Lets be realistic: human beings are sexual creatures. We have needs and desires. It's reasonable to expect us to fulfill those desires with or without you. At least we're not doing it with another person.

In addition, sexually active couples can use it to spice up their sex life. This is advantageous to couples who have been doing it for a while because, let's face it, having sex with the same person the same way over and over again can get old, no matter how good you are.

3. Does "Pr0n" make us want to cheat on you? No. At least, not in my case. I'm sure each guy who watches porn has dreamed about sleeping with a hot actress. But I would never cheat on a girl I love for a girl I've fantasized about. Besides, not all men are bad at distinguishing between fantasy and reality.

All that being said, "Pr0n" is not completely innocent. Some companies in the industry do exploit their workers, child pornography is a problem and actors who are not careful run the risk of getting STDs.

So what do you guys think? Agree? Disagree?

Yes, this is the first time I've blogged here for more than half a year. I was busy getting my college degree and whatnot, so sorry from the absence.

As I was walking across the the stage this morning to shake hands with my college's dean and to receive my degree (cover), I thought about all the things that I had learned in college. All the things that came to mind were things that I learned outside of the classroom. I've learned more about myself, others and life in general during these four years than in my previous 19 years of existence. Most importantly, I've learned how to be honest with people, even if the truth was less than nice.

A few months ago, my girlfriend at that time asked me, with both hands and her eyes on the cup of coffee in front of her, if I would love her forever. I didn't say yes. I didn't give her a "maybe." I didn't even say so much as "I hope so. We'll see." A few years ago, I would have tried to find an answer that would have reassured her. But I've learned that being completely honest is the nicest thing I can do for someone I actually care about.

I told her "no." Actually, I said "probably not."

I'll never forget how she looked at me for as long as I live. But more than that, I'll never forget how right I was to say what I did.

Telling people what they don't want to hear is probably the most valuable thing I've learned in college. Confessing to mistakes , giving accurate projections and giving your honest opinion will let people know what to expect from you and will garnish respect. Even if you feel things are spiraling out of control (for example: you effed up royally on a project at work), people will perceive you as being in control.

Telling a girl that you probably will not love her forever is not easy and it seems cruel. But it is the right thing to do if that is how you feel.

I looked her in the eyes as she started to put down her coffee. "But I promise to love you today. And I'll keep on loving you as long as I feel love towards you." It wasn't easy for her to hear, but at that point, I like to think she knew that I would be completely honest with her.